***Warning selfie rant and selfie challenge occur in this post! Proceed with caution due the fact that I normally do not rant, but enough is enough!***
The other day I had lunch with a friend. I arrived a few minutes early, so I decided to post a picture on Instagram since I straightened my hair for the first time in months! I took 11 pictures of myself before I was happy with one; but I was constantly criticizing myself with each one, even the picture I picked to post. I told myself I did not like my smile in this one, eyes look funny in that one, or just what was I thinking?!
As soon as I posted my photo, I felt a sense of guilt. Why did I talk to myself that way? As a minimalist, and someone who is trying to remove self-doubt from my life, I had no right to do so. Then it got me thinking. How many other people do the exact same thing every time they want to take a picture of themselves?
According to the info graph provided by feelunique.com [shown below], women feel the need to take 7 selfies before finding the right one. I guess I was pretty hard on myself since this average is obviously a lot lower. Regardless, should we not be able to aim the camera, shoot, and be satisfied?
Self-hate, self-criticizing, self-doubt, it all destroys the beauty each of us hold. For goodness sake, we are God’s creation and made perfect in His eyes, so why do we do this to ourselves??!
Some of these averages make me question society today. Do we really feel that we have to spend all this time taking pictures of ourselves to impress someone that would probably like us with a simple smile? Is it necessary to criticize ourselves to the point of taking 11 pictures just to find one to post?
How many times have you seen someone taking several selfies [possibly duck face posing?], and thought they were full of themselves? [I am guilty of this.] But in actuality they are probably more self-conscious than egotistical. Society has created an instant judgment for everyone you see. This person is too fat, this person has huge eyes, that girl needs a sandwich, etc!
I say ENOUGH ALREADY!!! Quit letting society dictate how many selfies you take to find the “right one”! The first one was the right one! You are beautiful just the way you are! Quit criticizing yourself over a picture!
I realize it is hard to accept. There are things I would like to change about myself, but the truth is, I am not going to change it! I have to accept that I am beautiful the way I am! I know I am may not be what society wants me to be, and that is okay!
All I ask is for you to do is think and know the same thing!
Below are the 11 pictures I took of myself to be able to chose one worthy of posting. They are not edited in any way, because I want to prove to myself that all of them are worthy of posting, not just one. I also included the Instagram picture I did post which is edited.
You see. It is so easy to feel insecure for any reason and decide to you need to take pictures for however long to find the right one. Instead of finding what is wrong with ourselves, we need to say what we do like about ourselves.
Take a Selfie Challenge with Me!
I want us to undergo a very simple selfie challenge. Here are the steps:
- Take a selfie.
- Post that selfie. [No second tries!]
- In the caption, I want you to write the following: “I was challenged by @thetannehillhomestead to post the first selfie I took and share 3 things I like about it. 1. … 2. … 3. …”
- Use #iLoveMyFirstSelfie [I love my first selfie]
- Tag me in the picture! @awelderswife_erin [You may just get spotlighted here if you do!]
Bonus: Search #iLoveMyFirstSelfie and tell anyone else participating what you like about their selfie! Let us encourage and build each other up, because we all deserve to feel great about ourselves!
Simple right? Let us show society that we are not going to waste time trying to find the perfect selfie, because every shot is worth posting!
I will see you next week with a follow up on the selfie challenge, along with some other great things! Make sure you do not miss it by subscribing via email in the column to the right!
Happy [First] Selfie Taking!